I am in the exact same situation as you both!.. divorcing after 14 yrs.. already separated.. our 8yr old son is on the spectrum at a pretty high functioning level.. but lately has been acting out physically.. yet doesnt express any distress, frustration or emotion over his Dad moving out with either myself, my husband, his teachers, his therapists.. he doesnt have many friends outside of school and i've wanted to get him a better network for ages.. perhaps now is a good time to do so? where to start? "paintedhouse52", i appreciate your advice that a predictable visitation sched will help.. will keep that in mind as we move forward with this big family change.  

I got a divorce from my ex-husband when our son was 8 years old too and is very high functioning. It does take some adjustment especially for kids who like to know exactly what is coming next. Unfortunately my ex is not the best at being predictable but he is trying harder. If you and your husband can work on keeping a visitation schedule that is predictable, that helps. As far as the socializing, it is the hardest piece for my son still. Just give it some time and offer him some opportunities to play with others. Around my area we have meet-up groups and I'm getting my son involved with other asperger kids his age.